by mcl | Dec 4, 2019 | Columns, Practical Living, Tough Questions with Barb
By BARBARA MARTIN How do I get my spouse to listen to me? Imagine this scenario: Joe: I had a horrible meeting with my boss today. He continues to challenge my knowledge of my job and has actually said he doubts my competence in the work I do....
by mcl | Nov 3, 2019 | Columns, Practical Living, Tough Questions with Barb
By BARBARA MARTIN Q: HOW DO I PREPARE FOR MARRIED LIFE? I wish I had asked this question before I said, “I do.”As I look back on my early married life, I see someone who was quite selfish, entitled, spoiled and focused on how my...
by mcl | Oct 1, 2019 | Columns, Practical Living, Tough Questions with Barb
By BARBARA MARTIN Help! I’m single at church QUESTION: How can I find good community as a single person when my church doesn’t offer it (or when they do, it is known to be a gathering where your main goal is to meet a mate)? ...
by mcl | Sep 3, 2019 | Columns, Practical Living, Tough Questions with Barb
By BARBARA MARTIN Navigating marriage with an empty nest QUESTION: My spouse and I just became empty-nesters, and it is a little weird being in the house just the two of us after so long with our kids. How do we figure out how to love each other in this...
by mcl | Aug 4, 2019 | Columns, Relationships, Tough Questions with Barb
By BARBARA MARTIN How do I become better friends with my spouse? Last month I walked through the dangers of criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling (the four horsemen) in regard to dealing with disagreements in marriage....
by mcl | Jul 1, 2019 | Columns, Practical Living, Tough Questions with Barb
By Barbara Martin The 4 Horsemen of the marriage apocalypse QUESTION: How do I stop resenting my spouse for things they have or have not done? My husband and I have been married for 45 years. We have certainly had our...